Coachbenhamley Reviews

Reconnection with my children

The number one thing Ben helped me to achieve was a reconnection with my children As a father it s hard to think of anything more important in life My favourite a-ha moment when working with Ben was realising how I could be creating boundaries and transitions between the different roles I play in life which has allowed me to be more present in each role I also experienced the value of acknowledging life as it is right now as a fundamental basis requirement for authentic intentional progress From landing in the present I have been able to bring more curiosity and playfulness into my creative process - which is deeply satisfying I had become accustomed to hotwiring my creative process Ben s way of working is unpressured and freeing We went at my pace not his and there were no hidden agendas about getting results It was more about guiding me to become aware of deeper fundamental processes and then enabling me to update and improve upon them One additional a-ha moment was noticing the difference between saying and instead of but It encourages integration rather than a binary approach to the reflection of experience

When I started with Ben I was looking

When I started with Ben I was looking for help specifically with my business and how I could implement strategies to help with my business I chose Ben due to his background in yoga as I thought we would vibe I was right I think even though I was looking for logistical help I was drawn to Ben for the help he has given me in every aspect of life He has been very adaptable helping me through difficult emotional situations when work was the last thing on my mind and I think that the work we have done has grounded me so much that I feel confident continuing on my path in self-employment rather than giving up to move back into employment Grounding and porous boundaries were the biggest issues that came up These things were affecting every part of my life Ben challenged my thoughts in a way that I now have lots of different angles to look from and his use of visualisation and meditation really reinforced the goals we have established for me moving forward If you want a holistic approach to your specific struggles knowing that every aspect of life is interconnected whether we want it to be or not Ben is the right person for you Ben s knowledge of neurodivergence and how certain struggles can be explained from a neurological standpoint really helps to understand and put in place strategies to overcome our challenges Where I was when I started - doing too much and not getting anywhere with shiny object syndrome Ignoring the toxic relationship that was reinforcing the porous people pleasing nature of my boundaries in every aspect of life Where I am now - Happily saying no to my loved ones when their expectations demands are unreasonable in relation to who I am and what I stand for I have broken the chain and am aware of many other patterns that I will continue to interrupt to ensure I am living primarily for myself

ADHD

I was searching for a therapist who had experience of ADHD I found Ben via the Headstuff ADHD Therapy website As soon as I made contact with Ben I knew I had made the right decision and felt a real connection with him Since working together I have become more self aware feeling more confident in dealing with challenges Recognising my significant strengths and life experience Ben has enabled me to see life s challenges as opportunities for growth rather than problems I have been able to recognise the importance of addressing my own needs and learning to say no I realised that I have lived my life putting the needs of others before myself This realisation has been life changing for me I have been surprised how after a lifetime of struggling how much I have grown in just a few sessions with Ben I have felt empowered by our sessions and have been able to apply the insights to my life between sessions Ben has a unique way of working enabling you to recognise and tap into your inner strengths and talents Some of our most productive sessions have been when I ve not had an agenda and worked with my feelings in the moment I have worked as a Counsellor for many years and have had counselling myself at various points in my life I have no hesitation in recommending Ben if you are looking to move forward in your life

Tapping in to energy and focus

I wanted to get more from my weekly schedule without losing my work-life balance and without it feeling like any more work Ben helped me to value the things I am doing and tap into some deep energy for the things I want more of The number one thing I learned was about boundaries and an ability to say no gently but clearly I also now have a cork-board on the wall with clear visions and plans which is really helpful The sessions were a safe space for conversation I felt heard it was fun and we did some relaxing closed-eye visualisations and used some vivid metaphors which really brought some key ideas and feelings to life Thank you Ben I totally recommend anyone to work with you who wants to create and achieve great things Yes

Lost in my career

I got in contact with Ben at a point in my life where I felt lost in my career Not only did Ben hugely help with this but also with a number of other facets of my life Ben has helped me put a new perspective on how I was doing He helped me put value on the things that really matter and recognise the positives Although there were a number of Ah-Ha moments getting a new perspective on what I probably already knew I found to be massively helpful Thank you Ben I really looked forward to each sessions and although totally professional they were fun and freeing I would 100 recommend the sessions to anyone you ll love it

My sessions with Ben have really helped

My sessions with Ben have really helped me get through a long phase of low mood and overwhelm Ben has helped me manage my symptoms of ADHDI feel like I have a new perspective of my life and have learnt ways of dealing with my issues related to ADHD such as making changes to my environment and planning ahead I have moved through a period of burnout due to stress and overwhelm and have taken action I have also learnt to appreciate what I have and what I have achieved making me feel more positive about the future Ben was surprisingly sensitive and fun i enjoyed the activities that were a creative and helped me envision things in the way my brain understands I have been able to make to big decisions and take action with my work life balance Thanks Ben

Thank you Ben

I reached out to Ben earlier this year due to struggling with my newley diagnosed ADHD I was diagnosed at 23 I am now 26 My struggles have been constant throughout my whole life I never truly understood why I then met Ben who has helped me understand more about ADHD and how it affects me personally Ben has helped me in ways which I can t thank him enough for he has been brilliant from the moment I met him He is so understanding patient he has helped me to understand myself in a way in which I never even understood myself before Thanks to Ben my life is going in a much better direction I am so much happier more focused on my goals I continue to practise every frame work Ben has given me I use them on a daily basis to help me I strongly recommend reaching out to Ben if you are struggling and I am sure he will help you just like he has helped me I cannot thank Ben enough

Ben is simply excellent

Ben is simply excellent Having been there with ADHD he has an empathy and way about him that gives him total credibility I was made to feel instantly at ease and in no time at all I realised that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with me I feel more energised and focused on me as a person and not getting bogged down with constantly worrying what other people thought of me Ben will make you believe more in yourself whilst helping you realise your worth to others I 100 recommend Ben to anyone

Renewed sense of purpose

Renewed sense of purpose Ben managed to somehow take a huge overview of everything that needed changing without judgement Then through a calm process of conversation and supportive direction ignite a sense of newness and energy His guidance from bumpier times into an optimistic future is something I will forever be grateful for Somethings in life truly are priceless and what Ben offers is one of them